evilkaito:

evilkaito:

yeah people shouldnt be meanspirited and make fun of your harmless interests to your face for no reason but

1. you need to learn how to be secure in your interests, autism/adhd or not. its a life skill.

2. criticism shouldnt make you cry or get overwhelmingly defensive. worse things have happened then someone pointing out your interests have issues.

3. part of life is accepting not everyone likes what you like and move on. not for just everyone else’s sake but your own.

4. its important to try and split your attention between more than one thing, and to have interests that are lower stimulus than your special interest.

for those of you who cant fucking read:

i never said you deserved to get bullied. ever.

im autistic and have adhd.

stop describing your trauma in detail to me. i dont want to hear about it.

working on your confidence and being able to tell others that they’re being rude without having a breakdown is a GOOD thing. its difficult and its hard for myself to do as well. but its something everyone should work on. embrace your love for your interests and reject hatred. easier said than done, but if you dont want to be miserable, you have to try. your tormenters will never try to understand your pain and hurt, so learning to not let them hurt you is a good thing for YOU.

so many of you read the phrase “cry or get overwhelmingly defensive” and got mad without reading what i said before. critique. and when i say “critique” i meant that in a political sense. as in, if someone says your interest sucks because its disgustingly racist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. and you throw a fit, you need to learn not to. thats that. worse things HAVE happened.

you need to learn to accept that people will not always like you or your interests. this is something everyone, even those without autism and adhd, have to learn. its a hard lesson, and one im still learning, but if you dont learn it youll be miserable.

lastly, if you tell your therapist your special interest takes up your life so much you forget to eat sleep and drink, your therapist will suggest doing exactly what i said for your physical and emotional health.

in conclusion:

special interests are a symptom. if you have one, you probably cant control it very easily without help. going to therapy or taking small steps to becoming confident will help YOU FEEL BETTER.

now get off my ass.

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    yeah people shouldnt be meanspirited and make fun of your harmless interests to your face for no reason but